Why you’ve never had a girlfriend
While I can’t pinpoint the exact reason you’ve
never had a girlfriend, I can certainly come up with
a few reasons as to why something is off. Coming
from a girl, here are the factors that may be
inhibiting your girlfriend-catching skills.
#1 You talk about how you’ve never had a
girlfriend. Sorry, guy from my couch! But if you’re
telling me you’ve never had a girlfriend, I
immediately begin wondering what is wrong with
you. It’s involuntary. The second I hear that, my
mind starts spinning, and it’s a turn off.
It’s perfectly fine to have never had a girlfriend.
Just don’t go around telling cute girls this, unless
you’re purposely trying to evade their interest. A
woman’s imagination is your worst enemy.
#2 No confidence. Confidence is huge when it
comes to women finding someone attractive. And
by telling me that you’ve never had a girlfriend and
just “can’t figure out why,” I can tell right away
that you’ve already lost confidence in your ability
to get one, and that’s just not attractive. You need
confidence to even ask a girl out in the first place.
So pluck up the courage and try! Again and again,
if necessary.
#3 You give away too much information. Dear
guy on couch, I really didn’t need to know your life
story the first day I met you—and especially not at
7:30 in the morning, before I’d even had my
morning tea. Women like mystery! By divulging
your entire childhood and life problems right away,
you take away the excitement of getting to know
you.
#4 You don’t give away enough information.
On the other hand, you might not give away
enough information. Sure, I know your first pet’s
name and that she was run over by the neighbor,
who then lied about it, but I don’t know your goals.
I don’t know what your hobbies are.
These are really important factors that women
want to know before making you their boyfriend.
This is where you find similarities between the two
of you. The other random information can wait until
you’ve got her.
#5 You have no idea what women like. Maybe
you’re just completely clueless. This is a very real
possibility. You could just have no idea what
women like and that is inhibiting you from getting
one. Knowing what women like can help you catch
a gal and keep her! Read about women, or really
listen when your female friends speak. Learn!
#6 You don’t make yourself boyfriend
material. Hello, friend zone! You may as well be
king there. Women may not see you like a
boyfriend because you don’t make yourself seem
like one. Letting a girl dish about her latest crush
and then giving her advice is not the way to go.
If she starts complaining or talking about another
guy, don’t respond. Or better yet, tell her that he’s
being an idiot and you would never treat a girl that
way. This makes her start picturing you with a
girlfriend, and how you would act as a boyfriend. A
woman’s imagination can also be your best friend.
#7 You’re too picky. One problem you may have
is being far too picky when it comes to the girls you
want to date. You might have your standards set
way too high and that’s why you can’t find “the
one.” If you’re thinking that there’s someone out
there who is 100% everything you want, then you
should just give up.
That’s not real. There are SO many amazing
women out there that you’re blind to, just because
she might like oatmeal and you think it looks like
vomit. Come on. Broaden your horizons, dude.
#8 You don’t date. How can you get a girlfriend if
you don’t take a girl out on a date? If you think
texting and Facebooking a woman is all you need
to do to make yourself available, it’s obvious why
you don’t have a girlfriend.
Dating is a crucial part of starting a relationship.
It’s where the excitement is. It’s where the
chemistry begins. You need to go on *actual, not
cyber* dates with women.
#9 You are clueless when it comes to flirting.
Flirting is a quick way to make a girl know you’re
interested in her. If you can’t flirt, how is she ever
going to know that you’re interested? It’s also a
really fun way to build chemistry with someone.
Practice makes perfect, so practice flirting!
#10 You can’t read signs. Maybe you just have
no idea when a woman is interested in you and
that inhibits your ability to ask her out and
potentially make her your lady. Laughing a lot
around you is definitely a sign she’s interested. You
can also ask some close girl friends how you can
tell if she has an interest in you.
#11 You blame women. “They’re all just crazy.”
Ahem! Excuse me? No! Women are not the
problem—particularly if you’re the one who hasn’t
had a girlfriend, but they have had boyfriends
before. If you start blaming women for your
inability to pick up a girl, you will constantly hold
resentment for them.
This will transfer from woman to woman and you
will, subconsciously, be out of the game before it
even starts. You’ll immediately have a mindset
that says she won’t date you and that will change
your personality and the way you treat her. Stop it!
Fellas out there who have not been able to pick up
a girlfriend, even though you think you’re a catch,
here are a few reasons why that might be. Take a
page from this book, get out there, and try again!
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