An American author named Shawn James this week wrote a controversial
essay titled 'Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers' - detailing 15 reasons
why men should not date single mothers. It's got people talking. Read
below and tell us what you think...(If you're a single mother, you won't
like this..:-))
1. Never Available. A single Mother’s schedule is never open. Single
mothers are the kind of women to always cancel dates at the last minute.
Something always gets in the way of a man spending time with her. It’s
hard to have a relationship with her because she’s never there.
2. YOU are NOT a priority. Usually in a relationship the man winds up
DEAD LAST. Behind, her kids, her job, the car, the kitchen sink, the
stopped up toilet. Even the dog gets more attention and affection than a
man involved with a single mother. Any man who gets involved with a
single mother winds up a fifth stringer in a relationship. And he rarely
ever gets called up to play.
3. Thinks the world revolves around HER and ONLY HER.A single mother is
one of the biggest narcissists on the dating scene. She often thinks
that a man has to drop everything in his life to be part of hers and her
kids. They’re so selfish they don’t think a man has needs, wants or a
life of his own. He’s just supposed to be there to give her everything
she wants in life.
4. Emotionally Unavailable-Most Single mothers cannot form an intimate
connection with a man because her feelings are invested in other people.
Usually her primary focus is on her children.
In addition to dedicating herself to her children, most single mothers
have given their hearts to someone else- their children’s father. And
those feelings she still has for him will always prevent her from
getting closer to you. There will always be some distance between a
single mother and the new man in her life.
5. The ex/ Baby Daddy is ALWAYS THERE. A man just doesn’t deal with a
single mother. He deals with her ex or her baby daddy as well. And this
guy is always hovering around like a helicopter looking to c*ckblock
you. Some of these guys still think they have a shot at getting back
with her. Others just don’t want to see her happy. A lot of these dudes
want to f!ght over her.
Seriously, it’s a game they’re playing with each other. And they’ll be
playing that game with each other until their children turn 18 or 21.
Head for the exit. It’s just not worth dealing with this fool and his
insecure bullshyt.
6. The kids are working AGAINST YOU When dealing with a single mother
you also deal with Kids. Kids who still in their little heart of hearts
think that Dad will come back and love them.
Seriously, GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.
7. Those kids will HATE YOU. They will act out to keep you from getting
closer to mommy. They will make accusations against you to get you in
trouble. Again, it’s just not worth dealing with the bullsh*t to get
with a female. There are four billion women in the world. You can find a
quality female who doesn’t carry all this baggage or give you this much
grief.
8. Entitled attitude Single mothers think because she had a baby out of
wedlock the world owes her EVERYTHING. And she thinks she’s the one who
deserves the best. Even though she’s usually collecting welfare, food
stamps, or child support, in eyes she’s still supposed to be treated
like she’s a queen because she popped a kid out of her v*gina.
In their deluded distorted vision of the world Men are still supposed to
take her out to the finest restaurants and buy them lots of expensive
stuff. And he’s supposed to take care of her kids too, buying them
whatever they want while taking a blind eye to their bad behavior.
9. Distorted self-image Single mothers still thinks she’s as sexy like
she was before she had a baby. Only she doesn’t understand how her body
has changed. In some cases for the worse.
Single mothers are the type to try to squeeze themselves into sexy
outfits like low-rise jeans and cropped T-shirts to show off their belly
button, not seeing the muffin top and stretch marks squeezing out over
the top of their pants. They’re the type to stuff themselves into slinky
spandex dresses, (not aware of that gut, and the cellulite on their
asses) and head out to the club. She thinks men are supposed to run up
on her offering to buy her drinks. And because a few thirsty simps step
to her, she thinks she’s still got it. But the only people who wants
what she has to offer are scavengers at the bottom of the social scene.
10. Always the victim. Single Mothers never take responsibility for
their actions. The situation they’re in is always the fault of that “no
good man”, “these damn kids” their mother or someone else. They never
take any time to do any self-examination or make any efforts to change
their lives. They’re still looking for some Rich Incredibly Handsome
Man™ to put on a cape and play Captain Save-A-Hoe™, sweep her off her
feet and take her out of the troubling situation she helped make.
11. Jekyll & Hyde Personality. A single mother will be the sweetest
thing when a man first dates her, but a few months into a relationship
she turns into a NUTJOB. A man will usually see glimpses of this when
she chastises her kids when he first meets them. During that meeting
she’ll yell at them and bully them to get them to act right while
praising a man like he’s an angel.
It’s all an act. Heaven will turn into Hell around the six month mark.
Once a single mother gets a man settled into her life it’s not common
for her to start verbally abusing him and mocking him as she projects
all that pent-up rage from those previous failed relationships onto him.
And it’s usually around this point that most men realize why this woman
is single and why it’s time for him to hit the exit door.
12. Drama Queen. Because a single mother always sees herself as a victim
of society, she’s always talking about her problems. And she always has
a new trouble to bring everyone. There’s never a good day in the life
of a single mother because there’s always some new crisis about to
emerge in her life.
The reason single mothers need the drama is because it makes them feel
important. It makes people pay attention to them. And when
Captain-Save-A-Hoe™ is doting on them trying to solve their problems it
makes them feel an artificial sense of value. They need that value to
deflects people’s attention from how pathetic their lives actually are.
Manipulative In most cases, a single mother has no interest in a man
she’s dating. In a lot of cases she’s just using a guy as a pawn.
13. In most cases she’s dating to make her Baby Baddy jealous. Deep down
in her heart of hearts she believes that if she’s seen with someone
else who sees her as valuable that he’ll see her as valuable and take
her back.
In other cases when she’s not trying to get a rise out of Baby Daddy
she’s playing the sympathy card™ using a guy to get gifts, free dinners
and free drinks out of him. To a single mother, The men in her lives are
just human ATM machines where she whispers a sweet nothing in his ear
like a PIN number and money comes out of his wallet.
And because she’s a drama queen who loves to play the victim, the Single
mother plays to men’s emotions to get them to react in the way she
wants. It’s not common for a single mother to tell her man about her
baby daddy so he can go f!ght him. Or pit two baby daddies against each
other. Many a man has wound up either dead or in prison because a single
Mother played the victim card™.
14. Dishonest. A single mother is a LIAR. It’s how she gets what she
wants. It’s how she manipulates people. It’s how she takes care of her
kids. It’s how she survives in this world.
Single mothers lie. And they LIE ALL THE TIME. They lie to men about
their age, their height, their weight, how many kids they have, the job
they do.
On top of the lies they tell to others They lie to themselves. They lie
about how beautiful they are. They lie telling themselves they’re still a
catch. They lie telling themselves they still have a chance with a good
man. They lie telling themselves that their lives will be happily ever
after one day.
The horrible truth is without those lies most of those single mothers
would realize how pathetic their lives are. How they have no options in
the dating scene. That they’re at the bottom of the barrel in the dating
scene and the only men who want them are pathetic Manginas and thirsty
Simps.
15. Carries Baggage, baggage and more baggage A single mother has more
issues than Time and Newsweek combined. And when she’s looking for a
man, she’s not looking for an equal caring partner. She’s looking for a
Pullman Porter™ to take care of her kids, and clean up her messes with
her children's’ father. Brothers, don’t let yourself get sized up for
the white jacket and the bow tie!
Anyway, dealing with a single mother is like walking through a
minefield. After several months of being involved with her, it leaves a
man anxious and tense because he doesn’t know where to step that won’t
lead to an explosion that k!lls him.
That’s why Real Men avoid single mothers like disease.
Real men understand life is too short to put up with someone’s drama and
their emotional baggage. We only have a limited time on God’s Earth and
who wants to spend it being a Pullman Porter cleaning up someone else’s
messes. As I stated before in a previous blog, let that woman take her
run over Jimmy Choos and clean up her own mess. She made her bed, now
let her lie in the wet spot.
Don’t date single mothers and don’t waste your time with them. There are
four billion women in this world. If you’re patient, you’ll find a good
one.

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